Well, if you put a piece of meat in front of a dog. It will go to that meat even if it is trying to behave, correct? As long as the meat is there, it will be more focused on what it can eat versus whatever its owner is trying to do to it- pet it, wash it, train it- anything.

In this situation, he is the dog, and there is a piece of meat- a woman- here too much like the first one he preferred over me even if he says he loves me. He wouldn't like it if I got rid of her, but he doesn't like it when I want his time with her to be minimum to try and preserve our relationship.